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Dilemma: DD blackmailing me into 'proving' Santa exists.

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Well, I think that's what she's doing anyway.
I've suspected for the past couple of years that DD (7) didn't really believe in Santa though she hadn't said anything directly. She makes the odd slip like asking how can Lapland be real after seeing an ad for trips there. I took that to mean that she didn't know how Santa's home could be real if he wasn't . Naturally I said it was a real place.
Anyway, last night she openly said that she had a plan to prove that Santa exists and it isn't the parents who brought the toys . I just looked neutral. She said she was going to secretly ( ) ask Santa for one of those giant teddies that I always say are dust-collectors and she can't have. She means one of the awful six foot things that just sit and take up half a room. She says if Santa brings it, she'll know for sure it wasn't me who bought it as I wouldn't.
Do you think there's a small chance that she's clutching at straws and really wants to believe? Or is she being clever and manipulating me into getting her one of these things? I feel like I've been threatened that if she doesn't get one, she'll know Santa doesn't exist. Is this something they all eventually try? I've tried to redirect her a bit to asking for other things but she's totally firm on it.
The teddies are about €100 which is fine if it's her Santa present but it will take up half the playroom and what will she ask for next year if she sees this plans works a treat?
Any thoughts on what to do?
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sit her down in front of "miracle on 34th street"
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Santa would never go against the parents wishes. He's magic and he would know it's a trick and if she carries on like that he might give her a lump of coal
All ahead of me I think
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My kids know that Santa only brings what your parents allow you to have!!
So 5-year old won't ask for DS lite as he knows Santa doesn't bring them till you are nearly 7.
They also know that there's no way Mammy & Daddy could possibly afford all the stuff Santa brings.
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She sounds very smart, testing hypotheses and all that
I would be honest with her if she really wants to know rather than buying the teddy to increase the longevity of the 'lie'.
She doesn't have to believe in Santa and she seems to have worked out good reasons why he doesn't exist I wouldn't be keen on proving her wrong and have a massive dust-collecting teddy to boot!
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If that was dd I think I'd say something like;
ok dd that's grand if that's what you want to ask Santa for , go ahead, but remember, Santa only brings one big thing, so make sure that's what you really want before you ask for it. If you just want a big teddy to play with that's ok , if there's nothing more exciting you can think of that you would like to play with put the teddy on your list.
Get her to think about how she'll feel if she only gets a big teddy.If she really wants one, fair enough but maybe it will get her mind thinking to something a bit more exciting.
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I'm keeping schtum with dd (also 7) seeing as dn (10) already spilled the beans on me. I'm just saying nothing. I've told her already that mam and dad have to pay for the presents and Santa can't just bring a berg go cart and a flicker and a bike and "good" rollerblades
I don't think I'd buy the teddy though. If she were black mailing me with anything else, maybe, but I hate those bloody teddies
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Ah! I think that might be it. I could tell her that I know Santa wouldn't bring something her parents wouldn't want her to have, even if she asks for it secretly. So she might as well ask for something that he could bring. Thanks, that seem obvious now.
Yes, lollipop, buying the teddy would just be postponing the issue again until next year but she hasn't asked me any hard questions outright so I'm just going to lie low until she does . I was thinking that I might admit to there being no Santa when she's about 21.
I must have a look at Miracle on 34th Street again . I haven't seen it in about 20 years.
I'm sorry, mummyto1, I don't like your plan at all. It would result in me having that teddy in my house
The suggestion of a pink Berg Go Kart could definitely redirect her thoughts.
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it would work for dd cause she would think ...ooh flicker....hmmm....teddy.....and realise how much more fun a fliker would be!!
But then again she hasn't her heart set on a teddy
I wouldn't want one in my house either!!
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As much as having a giant teddy in my house would both freak me out and bug me I'd get it for her just for the magical reaction it would have on Christmas morning.
If she tired the same stunt next year I would tell her that Santa only proves himself once!
Could you imagine her face on Christmas morning though??
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Ah, stop! You're tempting me to get it now! It would be so funny if I said Santa definitely wouldn't bring it because her parents wouldn't like it and then it was there anyway. I could pretend to be annoyed with Santa .
But then I'd have the yoke looming at me in the playroom. I wonder if she'd agree to me giving it way around March or April?
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My nephew made my sister tell her the truth about Santa aged 9 and he kept telling her "Don't lie Mammy". He was really asking to hear the truth. But after ages of discussion they discussed it and when he heard two tears plopped out of his eyes and he was devastated. She was shocked that really he wanted the myth and not the truth. I will continue believing in Santa until no one else does and have learned from her lesson.
I tell them that Santa will only bring one present and if that is what they want then the big present is it. Only stocking fillers after that. I also say that Mam and Dad couldn't afford those big things
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I have a Santa gmail address which has worked on some doubting kiddies in the past. If you think an email from the man himself would work, type something up and pm it to me with your email address and I'll send it back from
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wow - like santa@gmail.com????
Ann - think I'd put up with the giant teddy too, and be livid Christmas morning
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Oh Ann that's a tough one.
If it were me I would get the teddy and I hate those things too but I would love to see her face on Christmas morn .
I actually remember wanting one of those massive teddy's when I was a little girl.
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Will it be this big?
(edited to add; this is not my child, it is a random strangers child I plucked off the internet )
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Wow, imagine the dust after a while on that teddy!
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Why oh why?
Not criticising you in any way, have heard of other people telling kids this but always wonder why (so I'm interested to hear your reasons please if you'd like to share!!) Thanks!
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Why oh why?
Not criticising you in any way, have heard of other people telling kids this but always wonder why (so I'm interested to hear your reasons please if you'd like to share!!) Thanks!
Because she asked? As I said, my niece already told her that mam and dad does Santa so it's not stomping on her dreams or anything. She knows already, I'm just playing dumb really. She did ask if she could ask for a berg go kart and a bike and I said no, that was too expensive.
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Why oh why?
Not criticising you in any way, have heard of other people telling kids this but always wonder why (so I'm interested to hear your reasons please if you'd like to share!!) Thanks!
I also don't get why parents say they have to pay for presents but maybe that's easy for me to say when dd is only 4 because she fully believes that Santa and all the elfs make the toys in santa's workshop. Still don't think I'll ever say we have to pay for them
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+1. but I am a softie when it comes to teddies!
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i also take this approach with dd. Santa wont bring something that your mammy and daddy dont allow.
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In her feckin' dreams it would be that big! Actually, I must establish exactly what her notion of a 'giant' teddy is. I thought six foot was as bad as it could get .
I'm still dithering about what to say to her.
We've never said anything about parents having to pay for the toys, it elves all the way here. I didn't want to draw any type link between Santa and parents having some involvement (fat lot of good it did us). We would say that she couldn't be seen to be greedy and ask for too many things as Santa has to many to make toys for.
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To Receive you have to believe. Thats my line and I am sticking to it.
x
Ciara

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