Ok in a nutshell, baby is 17 weeks old, an absolute dream baby, very placid and happy. Goes to bed at 8, sleeps till at least 12 the odd time hell go until 3/4am then he wakes so since birth hes been spending half the nite in his cot and half in my bed. This wasnt a prob for me until the party season came about and now mammy would like the odd nite as a drunken wino!! Obviously I cant do this if Ive to have the little man in my bed! Ive tried keeping him in his cot, when he wakes i give him soother pat him and say shh etc but it just wakes him up more and he thinks its playtime. As soon as I lift him into my bed however its lights out and hes snoring!!
Any tips on how to get him to stay asleep in his cot? !
Eek, when you say you've tried going into him, shh-ing him etc etc but he won't settle how long have you tried it for? It might take a while to get him out of the habit iykwim? A couple of nights won't do it I wouldn't think!
I am not a fan of mobiles or cot displays as I think its gets babies into a bad habit of needing an aid to get them to fall asleep but rather than go cold turkey maybe a mobile or a comfort teddy bear might distract him from the fact that you've left the room.
If you are adamant about it I would just suggest you keep trying, I know its probably hard but to break any habit needs perserverence, even with adults
i use a soother! dd is 11 wks old and i'm trying to see if she will go a bit longer between feeds during the night, same... will go down around 8/9 and stay asleep till probably 1/2am and then will wake every hour and a half or so... sometimes the soother works sometimes it doesn't but it's great when it does, i can go back to sleep for another 2 hrs or so! just pop it in her gob without picking her up at all, tends to fall out a few times before she cops it's there but then will start sucking away and will usually fall back asleep.
Worth a try!
ok i've just read your post properly and see you've tried soother... do'h! one tip i'd say if you try it again don't do the patting or shushing, anything that will stimulate him into waking up properly and realising you're there.
sorry i'm not more help!
thanks girls - tbh think im just not persevering long enough, i dont believe you can spoil a baby that young but if i dont get a grip and become the boss ill have trouble on my hands by the time hes 1 - he has me wrapped and im convinced he knows well and is laughing behind my back!
I want to get rid of soother bec he wakes when he realises its out of his mouth and he depends on it to get back asleep - next week dh is off so ill be firm and stick to routine and just put up with being tired for a bit!