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Really starting to annoy me-dd wanting to be a boy

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Last October dd decided she was in fact a boy. She refused to wear a skirt or leggings or anything pink or with flowers. She's now 3.5 and it's still going on and it's getting worse. She won't wear anything I choose, anything that matches, only wears crocs and cries whenever I try to make her wear anything she's not 100% happy with. I know in the grand scheme of things it's not a big deal but it's getting too me. Just once I'd like her to look well presented in maching clothes.
Any tips?
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Dd hasn't let me be the decider on what she wears since she was about 1.5 My approach is to only buy things that I like. Her counter to that is to wear what I buy in, well let's just say eccentric to be polite, combinations.
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I'ld let her wear what she likes. You can get nice unisex tracksuits and dungarees - should be ok.
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My dd is 10 and has been like this since she was about 4. It's tracksuits, shorts etc. all the way. She does like colours and patterns and is not averse to a bit of pink but prefers purple! She only wears Geox shoes - she has not had a pair of leather shoes since she was about 5. You have to let it go - it'll be a long hard road if you fight with her about this.
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Have you tried giving her a choice? Pick out two or three outifits in the morning and tell her she can chose which one she wears, that way she still has some control of what she is wearing and you can select the outfits.
I have the opposite at the moment, my 'tomboy' who refused to wear a skirt/dress or leggings until the age of 3.5/4 has turned so girly she only wants to be in dresses/skirts, fancy hairstyles and little else! she is 6 now, so there is light at the end of the tunnel, your little girl may come back with a bang in a year or two!
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Exactly the same situation here - don't know which one is worse, not wanting to wear dresses or wanting to wear dresses all the time (and change them 3 times a day) I'm ready to pull my hair out, every morning the house is like a battlefield, and that is after we had agreed in the evening what clothes she is going to wear.
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Can you buy clothes that you both like? I know a few mothers in the same situation and fighting it makes it worse.
I am so glad DD2s goth stage wore off.
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I just my kids wear what they want. We had rainbow day at school recently and everyone was commenting that my DD had made a great job of combining all types of colours for the day. Little did they know that that was what she normally wears. I usually only interject if what she is wearing is likely to cause a headache like stripy green leggings with spotty skirt/dress, and orange stripy top with a red bandana!
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DD1 seems to go through six-nine month phases of this. We had nearly a year of refusing to wear anything but dresses - no trousers at all. So when her third birthday came, I said just dresses to relations who were buying clothes. Lo and behold, we are now in a trouser only phase - it is with great bribery I get her into a dress for a wedding etc.
But I'm sure this phase will change too.
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I think bring her shopping and let her choose some clothes she likes next time. Obviously pick a shop in your price range but give her some free reign.
Soon enough she will have to conform with uniforms etc why not let her individuality shine though for now.
No point you buying the clothes you would like her to wear if she hates them and they go unworn.
DD2 has a thing about certain types of clothes as well.
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I know you would more than love your DD to dress in girly things but let her express
herself. My DD2 has not dressed in girls clothes since she was 3yrs old. I let her pick her clothes
and they will all be from the boys section of H&M or Dunnes.
She is only made wear dress's or girly things at wedding/communions/christings
I personally don't understand anyone getting annoyed over the way a child whats to dress unless
its not approporate.
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DD is the same, all she wants to wear is tracksuits!
I brought her shopping and picked up some lovely dresses and NO WAY! was she going to let them near her, so I told her to pick out some things (she is younger, 2.5yrs), Lo and behold she picked out some lovely sets, nothing was pink as she doesn't like it, but she choose a lovely gypsy skirt, and t shirts to match it and then a lovely dress that had a very fine print in light yellow and purple and orange trim and it's gorgeous on her. I'm going to let her have a free range in the shop in future, she knows what she likes to wear, what feels comfortable on her and it suits her.
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Because I have this idillic picture in my head of little girls with pritty frilly dresses and ponytails
Most of her stuff is pink so it matches - problem solved!
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Because I have this idillic picture in my head of little girls with pritty frilly dresses and ponytails
Most of her stuff is pink so it matches - problem solved!
Ahh bless you see I'm lucky as I have 3 others who are the biggest divas on the planet.
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This crowd have some really nice unisex pieces, even some of their girls clothes aren't overly girly. They don't have a store in Ireland, but do supply to England and other European shops so maybe see if some of them are online? http://www.appaman.com/boys.html
Our tomboy has gone to the pink side in a big way lately and as much as I'm not a pink lover, I let her off. It's only clothes at the end of the day, she's just trying to exert some independence.
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HATE tracksuits except for training or when doing activities where they will be extra dirty (helping in garden,paiting) but my kids do not really like them either so not a problem. My DD who is 8 prefers to wear jeans/leggings to dresses so only wears dresses on the odd occasion. I don't wear dresses that much myself and so agree with her. When playing wearing a dress means its more likely to cut knees and hurt more than if knees are covered!
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MY DD is the very same. She has fab clothes (all hand me downs, but fab designer gear). She won't wear anything that matches, the more colours the better. She LOVES liverpool gear that my brother gave her. I put it away and told her it was gone to small (it wasn't), what did my brother do, only buy her another one. Today's ensemble is a pair of leggings, lovely ones, however she has a pair of shorts over them and a mismatched t-shirt! Yesterday she wore said liverpool shorts over a pair of brown capri pants with a green St. Patricks day shirt.
At the end of the day, she is safe and healthy, so I try not to let it get to me too much!
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Sounds cute as when they are adults they might have to conform more for work so express themselves while young!
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DD3 is 5.5 and says 'skirts are for girls'!She recently attended a party of a boy in school .There were 23 boys and herself! She has proclaimed more tha once that she wishes she was a boy!
Dd2 is nearly 10 and not much better!
I sometimes see little girls all dressed up and matching and then look at my ladies and sigh but there its not worth fighting about so I don't!
as a mum of a 17 year old,trust me,you pick your battles!!
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Squeak, DD2 was exactly the same and I found it really upsetting because a) I was a bit frightened by the idea she was gender-identity confused and b) I hate bloody tracksuits and most of the other horrible stuff that she loves. A few yrs on (she's now 5.5 ) and she's in no doubt that she's a girl but she is still very odd about clothes. I have learned to let go and love her as she is. She also has something called sensory processing disorder which means certain fabrics and styles of clothes actually drive her mad and now that I understand this I can work around it.
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Clothes should match? The only requirement I have are that they are clean and he has to wear pants! He chooses the rest. There are so many other things to worry/stress/fight over. I don't look at other children and think "Dear Lord, how could that childs mother let her out in an outfit like that?"... to be honest the thought has never occurred to me.
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Here you go squeak!Might console you a bit
Granted the top is pink but she must have been having a good day!!
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She has BEAUTIFUL curls mini!!!
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They are stupid too and she wants a number 1 like her brother!

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